Spotting the signs of Stalking

This week marks National Stalking Awareness Week (20-26 April).

Stalking is more common that many people realise and can happen to anyone. Knowing how to recognise the signs early can make a crucial difference in keeping yourself and others safe.

What is stalking?

Stalking is not just a one-off incident. It’s a pattern of repeated, unwanted behaviour directed at a person that cases fear, distress, or concern for safety. This behaviour is often fixated and obsessive and may escalate over time.

It can include actions that make someone feel harassed, alarmed, or even fearful that violence could be used against them.

Key signs to look out for

Stalking behaviours can vary, but they are usually persistent and unwanted.

To recognise stalking or harassment, think FOUR:

Fixated, Obsessed, Unwanted and Repeated

Fixated or Obsessive behaviour

• Someone showing an excessive interest in your life

• Consistent monitoring of your activities or trying to gather information about you

Unwanted attention

• Sending gifts or leaving items when not asked

• Following you or appearing in places you regularly visit

Repeated contact

• Constant messages, calls, emails or social media contact

• Turning up uninvited at your home, workplace or social settings

A key indicator is repetition – these behaviours happen more than once and form a pattern that causes alarm or distress.

This may include:

• Actions that make you feel uncomfortable, anxious, or unsafe

• Behaviour that escalates and becomes more intrusive over time

Trust how it makes you feel

One of the most important things to remember is “if it feels wrong, it probably is”

Stalking is defined not just by the behaviour itself but also by its impact. If someone’s actions make you feel unsafe, anxious, or threatened, it should be taken seriously.

What should you do?

You are not alone and support is available. If you think you may be experiencing stalking:

• Trust your instincts and seek help

• Talk to someone you trust about what’s happening

• Report concerns to the police (call 101, or 999 in an emergency)

• Reach out to specialist support services

There are organisations that offer confidential advice and support, including local services and national helplines. You can find details of these in the Dudley Safe and Sound Help Hub: https://www.dudleysafeandsound.org/stalking or on the West Midlands Police Website: Support for victims and witnesses of stalking or harassment | West Midlands Police

Stalking is serious and can escalate if left unaddressed.  

Recognising the signs early and tacking action can help protect you and others.

If something doesn’t feel right, don’t ignore it.  

Speak up, seek support, and stay safe.

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