Spotting the signs of Mate Crime

What is mate crime?

Mate crime can happen to anyone, but children and adults with learning difficulties are particularly vulnerable.

It occurs when someone pretends to be a friend to gain a person’s trust, but then goes on to abuse, manipulate, or exploit them.

From the perpetrator’s perspective the relationship is created with harmful intent.

The person responsible may appear to be a friend, carer, or even a family member, but they misuse the relationship for their own benefit.

Sometimes the victim is aware and feels trapped in the situation, other times the victim may think it is a genuine friendship and doesn’t understand a crime is taking place.

Different forms of Mate Crime

Mate crime can take many forms, including:

• Theft or financial abuse - the abuser may ask to borrow money and never repay it or misuse the person’s belongings or property.

• Cuckooing - the abuser may take over the person's home and visit or stay there without the person’s consent.

• Physical assault or abuse - the abuser might physically hurt or injure the individual.

• Harassment or emotional abuse - the abuser may manipulate, mislead, or make the person feel worthless.

• Sexual assault or abuse - the abuser may exploit or harm the person sexually.

Often, these types of abuse do not happen in isolation. Victims may experience several forms of abuse at the same time.

Spot the signs

Be aware of the changes that may suggest someone is experiencing mate crime, such as:

• A noticeable change in the person’s behaviour or appearance.

• Unexplained injuries.

• Money or personal belongings going missing.

• Becoming more isolated, especially after forming a new “friendship”.

Possible Consequences

Mate crime can have serious emotional and physical effects, including:  

• Victims may not realise they are being exploited and may defend the relationship.

• They may feel frightened, ashamed, or unwilling to tell anyone about what is happening, leading to further isolation.

• What begins as what seems like a friendship can escalate into bullying, manipulation, or abuse.

Reporting Concerns

If you suspect that someone may be a victim of mate crime, it is important to speak up. Reporting concerns can help protect vulnerable individuals from harm.

You can report concerns to the police by calling 101. If there is an emergency or someone is in immediate danger, call 999.